Thursday, January 2, 2014


"This is one reason why the Bible does not present divorce as a solution to marriage problems, though it may be a result. Unrepentant adultery may provide biblical grounds for release from the marriage covenant, but divorce does not solve the problems that led to it. Divorce changes relationships, situations, locations, but it doesn't change the heart. People who use divorce as a solution often repeat the same problems in subsequent relationships because the one thing that needed to change remained unchanged: them! They were blinded by their own now-ism. But if they see their marriage now as a training ground for their marriage then [with Jesus at the marriage supper of the Lamb], the trials God sends their way make perfect sense. As you solve marriage problems with then in view, you won't deal with trouble by separating from your spouse. You will learn how God wants to change you so that you can better live with him or her. Your now response will be shaped by a then perspective."

Paul David Tripp
Instruments in the Redeemers Hands: People in Need of Change Helping People in Need of Change
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